In this week’s episode of The Autism Mums Podcast we welcome Kimberley Guche to the show. Kim explains how our children read our inner signals (even when we’re ‘holding it together), why we can’t think our way out of overwhelm and the simple, compassionate resets that help us move from chaos to calm.
Kimberley’s Biography
Kim Guche is a pediatric speech-language pathologist, certified hypnotherapist, NLP coach, and the creator of Nervous System First Parenting™ — a revolutionary, body-based approach that helps overwhelmed moms calm their own nervous system so they can lead with steadiness and intention. Drawing on trauma-informed tools, vagus nerve science, and her own journey as a single mom of four, Kim teaches the part most parenting books miss: how to shift chaos by regulating the energy inside you. Her 5-minute Chaos to Calm™ Reset isn’t just for your kids — it’s for you, so you can finally stop white-your way through motherhood.
Key Takeaways
- Calm is a body state: regulation has to be felt, not forced by thoughts.
- Children read our nervous systems – even when we’re ‘holding it together.’
- Five-minute resets that work anywhere: breath, havening, tapping, shaking, cold-water splash.
- Visual anchors (trees, sunflowers, happy snapshots) create a rapid route back to safety.
- Grounding touch and proprioceptive input can soothe dysregulation when touch is OK.
- Micro ‘pattern interrupts’ sprinkled through the day raise your resilience floor.
- Congruence matters: when your inner and outer signals match, kids settle faster.
- Anchor the good: pair a physical cue with a joyful memory for instant state-shifts.
- Work with mums and kids to amplify results and reduce trigger loops.
- Progress over perfection – self-kindness keeps everyone steadier.
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Transcript
Natalie Tealdi: [00:00:00] welcome to the podcast, Kim. It’s great to
have you here.
Kim Guche: It’s great
to be here. Thank you.
Natalie Tealdi: So
you’ve got a really interesting background. Can you talk a little bit about
your journey to becoming the creator of the Nervous System First Parenting
please.
Kim Guche: My journey
is started I think probably when I was a speech. I’m a speech language
pathologist and I, and I also have four children. I, when I was, had a turning
point in my speech pathology career where I, it just wasn’t working for me
anymore. And I knew I needed to do something different ’cause something else
felt like it was calling me and I ended up finding my way to look, going into
hypnosis, but for myself.
Kim Guche: ’cause I
wanted to see what is this about? How could I use it for me? And, so the minute
I walked in to the appointment that I had, it was like just something hit me.
Like I knew oh, I feel like this is what I’m supposed to do now, but I didn’t
know why or how or really what I [00:01:00] was
gonna do with it.
Kim Guche: And I just
knew it is I gotta open this up more. And then when I learned about it. And I
started, I started working with it. And you know how much it helped me. I
thought this would really be great for all the kids that I work with, that
because I had said when I was working with the kids every time I’d go back to
school on Monday, wouldn’t it be great if there was a way.
Kim Guche: That we
could make all this stuff that I tell you all the time, stick, and then we
wouldn’t have to start over again every Monday. And I didn’t know that. Using
the subconscious mind, that’s exactly what happens. So once I learned that, it
hit me like, oh, that’s how you do it. You use the other side of the brain and
not just for learning, but for so many things.
Kim Guche: Just
mindset and letting go of the old. Like the fears that we have and the
self-doubts and the the anxiety. And so I had thought I do wanna [00:02:00] use this. It helped me so much. I wanna
help people, but I’m passionate about kids. So I thought, how can I use this?
How can I use this to help the kids that I work with?
Kim Guche: And then
it just started happening that, moms, I had a people finding me and saying, can
you know, how can you help my kid? And it started out with I was getting a lot
of children for sports improvement gymnasts and kids who were getting in their
head for their sport and had fear.
Kim Guche: And so I
started doing that and and that’s of course, that’s wonderful because you, you
wanna see kids excel because that’s how their self-esteem and they grow in so
many ways through their sport and you never want them to give up. So I started
like that and then I thought, wow, this could really help so many kids with the
limiting beliefs and the anxiety that they have.
Kim Guche: And then,
because as a speech language pathologist primarily working with kids on the
autism spectrum, A DHD like the gamut of everything in a [00:03:00] school. I started getting clients, like
moms were bringing their kids to me with with autism and help, asking could I
help them learn how to socialize better or to get over a fear.
Kim Guche: And that,
so I it went into that. And then personally for me, I left. The place where I
was living moved to a new place where I knew no one and had a huge cataclysmic
life event where I was very anxious all the time with a lot of very high needs
kids in the class that I was working in.
Kim Guche: And so I
was struggling with them and I was watching like these kids. Listen, and they
follow directions for the teacher and for other people. But they were not
behaving at all when they were in speech. And I know I’m a great speech
pathologist, so I thought, what, I have to really look at what’s going on.
Kim Guche: ’cause
it’s not the room we’re in, it’s not the school. It’s, there’s gotta be
something with me. [00:04:00] So I started,
thinking what would happen? What would happen? What? It’s, it, I can’t put it
on them. It’s got, I have to look at me. What would happen if I meditate every
day before I come to school and got myself calmer.
Kim Guche: And I just
set, said it as like a random, let’s do it as an experiment. And I noticed it
worked. I had two good days in a row and I thought, this can’t, it can’t just
be the meditation, could it? And I thought maybe it really is. So I, I got
outta my meditation routine. When my life changed, which was not a good thing
to do, but that’s what happened.
Kim Guche: So I got
back into it, I got back meditating and it, I realized it had nothing to do
with my skill as a speech pathologist with the techniques I was using, with the
reinforcers, with the games we were playing. ’cause they liked all that. It,
they were getting dysregulated because I was dysregulated and. So I was
journaling at the time, and then I just started reflecting. And it brought me
back [00:05:00] to all the times when I was
raising my own kids. And my very sensitive son had said to me day, he said,
mommy, you’re doing all, why are you, I’m doing all this crying because you’re
doing all this yelling.
Kim Guche: And he was
having a day where he wouldn’t stop crying. And I said what? Yelling? I haven’t
yelled. He said, yes you are. Yes you are. You’re yelling right here. Right
here. And he was like pointing, pointing to his chest. And I said, I have, this
mom hasn’t yelled, so I don’t know what mom, I don’t know what mom you’re
talking about.
Kim Guche: And then
I, but I didn’t connect the dots back then. I, and then I thought back all the
times my other kids had brought up similar things about how, they could feel
that I wasn’t okay on the inside, even though I tried to make it look like I
was on the outside. So I, in that moment when I was, working with that group of
kids, that, that classroom really changed it for me.
Kim Guche: That was
when I really thought I connected all the dots they [00:06:00]
behave better. Because they like you. They’re connected. I, I thought like
it’s, I first thought the, they don’t, these kids don’t like me. And then I
thought, no, that’s not it. They do like me. And then once I got calmer, I
started seeing so much change.
Kim Guche: Kids that
were I was fighting with them to use their communication device. They were
throwing it across the room. They started using it. They started sitting on my
lap. They were calm. So I thought there’s. There’s a lot to this. And I, so
just, it was in phases, and I just started putting it together that ’cause the
biggest thing I ever wanted to do in my life was to be the best mom ever.
Kim Guche: That was
all I really ever wanted. I didn’t wanna go to college. I didn’t wanna be a
speech pathologist. I wanted to be a mom and I wanted to be the best mom ’cause
I wanted to do better. And I thought. I’m failing at all times in my life where
I thought like I’m failing at this.
Kim Guche: ’cause I
was parenting from tr from trauma, like from a dysregulated nervous system,
which a lot of us [00:07:00] are. There’s
Natalie Tealdi: oh
yeah,
Kim Guche: We’re
often. I think moms are doing so many things at once all the time. And then we
beat ourselves up and we feel like it’s us. And if our kids aren’t okay, then
we’re not okay.
Kim Guche: And we
feel like it’s us as the problem.
Natalie Tealdi: Yeah,
I’ve noticed that with myself. I’m, I tend to meditate every day, either in the
morning or the evening, but I really notice it. If I miss it for a couple of
days I’m not as regulated and the effect that has on my children. It really is
quite a big deal. Yeah try not to skip it now.
Kim Guche: I, yeah.
You think. Oh, what’s the, if I just miss it, it’s easy to miss. It’s easy to
skip your workout, but then you skip your workout once, or you skip your
meditation once and it becomes easy to skip again. And it all piles up. And I
think as our kids are so tuned in to us, to the moms especially, and they, they
always want us, they’re always scanning us to see if we’re okay and [00:08:00] we.
Kim Guche: We work
overtime to make it so we are okay. Even when we’re not. But they know, they
know when we’re not and they know when we’re trying to, smile on the outside.
But on the inside we’re barely holding it together. So I think when I started
talking about it, like nervous system, first I thought, is that gonna make, is
that gonna be. Off putting to people. ‘Cause it sounds big and it sounds heavy
and it sounds like, oh God, I gotta fix one more thing. But I want the message
about it to be, not that it’s, you have to fix one more thing. It’s like you
have the power. It’s like giving you the key, you like, like instead of feeling
bad. I’m not doing, I’m not doing good enough because, moms shortchange, we
shortchange ourselves anyway all the time. ’cause we put the focus on the kids
and we think they need the help, so let’s help them first. But it’s like in the
airplane, they tell you have to put the, you have to put the mask on yourself [00:09:00] first before you can put it on the people
around you.
Kim Guche: And so if
I think like. When we are, ’cause we’re the anchor for everything in the house
for the kids. And they’re always looking to us. So I feel like who, who
doesn’t, when the, just look at everything that’s happening in the news all the
time and in the world, like who doesn’t need the tools to be calmer?
Kim Guche: Like we,
we really all do.
Victoria Bennion: We
do. One of the things that you talk about is that we can’t think our way out of
overwhelm. . So what can we do when we are dysregulated? I know you’ve
mentioned meditation.
Kim Guche: Because
you know any. Anytime we have a problem, right? The first thing we do is go to
our brain, like logically try. Let’s try and solve it. Think our way out of a
problem. And, but but calm and regulation and be and grounded isn’t in our
heads, it’s in our body. And so you can’t think, you’re not gonna solve that [00:10:00] issue through your head.
Kim Guche: Like it
has to go, it has to go through your body. To get, calmer and more regulated
first. It’s all body work. So simple things like even just imagining something
grounding like a tree, or, very simple things like even just like the havening,
from shoulders down to elbows.
Kim Guche: ‘Cause
that’s a comforting, that’s a comforting, cue for the body and it bring, it, it
communicates a sense of safety to the nervous system. When we’re overwhelmed or
anxious or stressed, if if we all, if we paid attention to our breathing, we’re
mostly holding our breath or breathing from here, breathing shallow.
Kim Guche: And when
we breathe like that, it sends signals to the body that there’s danger and that
we’re not okay. So even. Paying attention and doing different breath patterns
to regulate or even shaking, shaking out the overwhelm, doing something in the
body to, [00:11:00] get to get rid of it. M
moving it, moving it through instead of we hold it and then we, what do most
people do?
Kim Guche: We try and
push through it or ignore it. So that’s what I mean by you can’t think your way
to it. It has to happen through the body.
Victoria Bennion:
that makes a lot of sense. Thank you.
Natalie Tealdi: And
can you explain why holding it together is not the same as being regulated?
Kim Guche: Again
because like that example that I said about my kids they know. A lot of, I feel
as. As the generations go on, like these the kids younger and younger are more
and more sensitive. We’re seeing a lot of kids that are really and it’s a
blessing and a curse to be that sensitive.
Kim Guche: They’re
very sensitive and tuned in and they, they’re sensory systems are easily
overloaded and easily set off. But, they’re also very perceptive and tuned in
to people even when, even if it may seem like they’re not but nervous systems [00:12:00] communicate with each other and it’s like
a, a.
Kim Guche: It’s kinda
like a two-way radio device. Like your nervous system is always scanning the
environment to look for cues of safety or danger because one, the primary
function of the subconscious mind and nervous system, one of those primary
functions is to keep us safe and get us out of danger. So many things happen in
a split second outside of conscious awareness, and so kids are always scanning.
Kim Guche:
Environment, but they’re also tuning into us to see is this person that’s
supposed to keep me safe? Is that person okay? And so when we try and put on
okay on the outside, so we’re smiling or we’re, using a quieter tone of voice
or even slowing our speech rate, or if we’re feeling tense or worried or we’re
anticipating a meltdown or, we’re in public and we’re like, oh, what’s what?
How’s this gonna go? Because if your child [00:13:00]
is set off by. lights or fire engine goes by you, you’re always like this,
wait, what’s gonna happen? So on the inside, even though you might try be
trying to smile and hold it together you’re probably giving a, an unconscious
cue like you’re holding tension or gritting your teeth or showing on your body.
Kim Guche: There’s
those other subtle cues that indicate your tense. The kids pick that up. But
mostly what they do, what they can sense is the feeling of you. So they’re
looking for the signal, like what you show me on the outside, you’re trying to
show me everything’s okay, but I can feel you on the inside and you’re not.
Kim Guche: And so
what does that mean? Because it’s not a, it’s not a congruent signal. They
don’t, all of this is unconscious, right? It’s all nervous system language.
They don’t know that this is how it’s going, but. They feel it like, my, my son
had said, you’re yelling and my daughter had said before, whatever’s happening
with you, it [00:14:00] hurts me.
Kim Guche: I like, I
can feel it in my chest. So they are, when they, when a child can’t put that
together, the outside and the inside don’t match, it gets them more
dysregulated ’cause they can’t make sense of it.
Victoria Bennion:
Okay, this is reminding me a little bit of my dog training because,
Kim Guche: It’s kinda
Kim Guche: yeah.
Victoria Bennion: my
dog’s really reactive to certain dogs and the trainer was saying to me. You are
probably bracing yourself when you’re seeing another dog, and that is traveling
down the lead, whether you realize it or not. And it’s hard though, isn’t it,
because as you were saying, it’s in your subconscious, you’re not consciously
doing it.
Victoria Bennion: But
it’s trying to be aware of those messages that you’re passing on.
Kim Guche: Because
it’s when you have lived a certain way, like if you I grew up with a lot of
trauma, you develop a way, like you don’t want people to know you’re not okay.
So you and you certainly can’t not be okay at home. You have to pretend
everything’s good [00:15:00] and so you develop
your own way of getting yourself through things and showing people like you
still have to function.
Kim Guche: I still
have to go to work. I have to go to school, I have to, do I have to be okay in
the world? So we accommodate to our own. We don’t even recognize our own cues.
But you are not gonna, you’re not gonna fool them. You’re not gonna fool kids.
’cause they’re, they’re just so tuned in to, they’re hardwired into our nervous
systems.
Kim Guche: So it’s if
you’re like two mirrors, reflecting each other and signals bouncing off of each
other. And so I think even, even something really simple, like what works so
great for kids a lot of times is like, even if you just ground them, put a,
like hands on top of their head if they’re okay with touch, some kids are not.
Kim Guche: But even
my, even my kids that were the most hypersensitive to touch when you’re
grounded and you feel calm [00:16:00] and not
reactive, that is like really grounding to them and it can center them.
Natalie Tealdi: Is
that us putting our hands on their head or them doing it to myself
Kim Guche: yeah. You
could do it. I feel I do it to my, for myself and I feel better a lot. When
you’re getting, when you’re doing anything you’re getting a facial or you’re
getting a massage. Whenever anyone does work on your head, it feels so calming
and grounding.
Kim Guche: But even
when you do, like, when you go to the spa, even when you get your hair done,
if, when, if they spend like my, my stylist does scalp massage, and it’s
always, no, I could be having the worst day in that, three minute scalp massage
feels so good. But it’s just like a calming signal that goes from head down and
you don’t have to do it for long.
Kim Guche: But in our
c in the clinic, I, as a speech language pathologist, I ended up having to take
a lot of courses in, sensory integration and kids, how to help kids get their
sensory [00:17:00] systems regulated. And so I
ended up working a lot in the clinics with the OTs, the occupational therapist.
Kim Guche: So I know
prob some, sometimes I feel like I know more about occupational therapy than
speech therapy. But we used to use that a lot with the kids when they would
come into the clinic. ’cause they would come in. All revved up. And even though
we had all these sensory activities for bouncing and jumping and, the weighted
vests and they liked it they would always come right over and sit down.
Kim Guche: So we
would touch their heads and it, it would kind, it would work instantly. So
yeah, try, you could try that one. You with my, even with, anything that is
like firm, but like communicates strong. But a sense of strength and grounding.
Like in my kids in church, when they would just get squirrely to, to help them
sit, I would just go down their arms and just squeeze from like from the
shoulder down and they would sit still.[00:18:00]
Kim Guche: And it,
and I, that was before I even really knew anything. I was just starting to
learn about sensory. Sensory integration way, way back when my kids were little
and you can try that one too, but it like firm pressure that’s communicates a
sense of common strength. Works really well.
Natalie Tealdi: This
is making lots of sense. My son, when he becomes dysregulated, he can become
aggressive. So something we’ve learned along the journey is the more stressed
he becomes, the calmer we need to be. And it feels a bit unnatural because if
you see him stressed, you can feel your own anxiety and stress bubbling and
it’s you have to like really try and calm yourself.
Natalie Tealdi: So
all these techniques are really good.
Kim Guche: so I love
that point because see, before I knew any of this, when with my son who was so
sensitive, I really thought he I. I thought that’s what I had always been
taught. When they take it up 10 notches, you go lower and they’ll [00:19:00] match your energy. But he never, the
calmer I got, the more worked up he would get, and it didn’t make sense to me.
Kim Guche: And so I
thought, he’s just really, he just loves making me crazy. That’s what he wants
to do. He’s trying to ruin my life. And because I thought why I didn’t, that’s
the day I said to him, Chad, why are we doing all this crying? And I, but what
I didn’t realize was I was. Calmer in my voice and I was saying, Chad, it’s all
right.
Kim Guche: It’s,
there’s really nothing to cry about. But I was holding back a volcano on the
inside and that, so I wasn’t calm. And so really, this is seems
counterintuitive, but a better signal that’s a better match is if you’re mad on
the outside and mad on the inside, they know what to do with that. ’cause it
makes sense.
Kim Guche: So when I
would finally yell, ’cause he would say, you’re doing all this yelling. And I
would say. I’m gonna do all this yelling if you don’t stop. And then when I
would finally yell, he would calm down and it would be the end of it and I
couldn’t figure it [00:20:00] out. But then it,
when I learned all the nervous system science it, I know, I realized that made
sense.
Kim Guche: I was
driving him crazy because I was a competing signal and I didn’t know then how
to get calm. I had no idea and I didn’t really realize, like I said, I was
always in a state of. Not come. And I was always in fight or flight. I had four
kids. And so I didn’t know. I just thought if I quiet my voice and I slow down
and I just, tell him everything’s gonna be okay.
Kim Guche: But he, it
was like, he, they can see right through you. It’s like they have x-ray vision
and they’re, and they I always think about what it must have looked like when
they see me on the inside, like a tornado or a volcano. And then they’re
looking at me like trying to figure out how does that. How does that show me?
Kim Guche: I’m okay.
Natalie Tealdi: So I
guess it’s more important to work on being calm within yourself as much as
possible.
Kim Guche: like you
said, just like you said, so you’re actually doing the [00:21:00]
work that the work that works. So because you’re stopping, like you’re
recognizing even though it is hard when your child is out of control,
Kim Guche: It’s hard
to calm ’cause you’re worried. You don’t know where this is gonna go.
Especially ’cause a lot of kids get aggressive and you don’t want them to hurt
themselves or anyone else.
Kim Guche: So that’s
why I think, all the, it’s all the, all these things, when you do nervous
system resets, it all adds up. So it’s not if you do it once, it’s gonna fix
everything, but every time you do it. And even just having the awareness, where
am I right now in my nervous system, what, what’s really going on?
Kim Guche: Because we
ignore those signals so much, we just, we’re busy and the world is so busy and
we always have 10 notifications going off and there’s, so many, you got your
phone and a laptop and a computer, and so there’s always a ding or whatever, a
flash or some something happening also in the [00:22:00]
environment and that, all that stuff.
Kim Guche: Gets your
nervous system worked up too. So the more you practice, put a, like a little
note to yourself, like three times in the hour, I’m gonna do a quick reset. It
all adds up. So you’re really, you’re retraining yourself. It, you’re never, no
one’s ever gonna be in a calm, in a rest and digest state all the time.
Kim Guche: We can’t
be, but it’s, how quick can I get out of. Fight or flight, can I recognize or
even shut down? Can I recognize where I am and get back to a, a safer ground?
Natalie Tealdi: Yeah,
definitely.
Victoria Bennion:
Yeah, they’re really useful tips.
Kim Guche: I think
because if you think about yourself when you know when you need help, who helps
you if you’re relying on your partner or. Your best friend or your parent or
something, your sister, if that person is also being pulled under it. Even for
us it, [00:23:00] it it’s not gonna be helpful.
Victoria Bennion:
Yeah, for sure.
Kim Guche: I think
about it like the lighthouse, like we’re like a lighthouse so we can. Flat,
show the direct them. This is where you wanna come and follow this signal to
get here. And I can be the lighthouse. So yeah, it’s all awareness and every, I
did one.
Kim Guche: Every time
you do those resets, you’re doing a pattern interrupt essentially. So even
though you might have. A very chaotic and hectic day happening. You’re still
the hijack to your nervous system.
Victoria Bennion:
Yeah, you can see that. That’s really important.
Natalie Tealdi: Have
you got any, what are your sort of go-to tips, have you got any like top tips
for when you need to calm yourself down?
Kim Guche: I think
for everybody it’s different for, for me, I love the, I have a picture in [00:24:00] my mind that I always see two of them. I
love trees and sunflowers, and we went to, I took the kids to Italy a few years
ago, and so I have a vision in my mind and above, above my. Laptop. I have a
picture of sunflowers, but I have a picture of my kids in the sunflower field
and they’re and they were just having so much fun.
Kim Guche: And so I,
when I feel like I’m going off the rails, I either I try to picture a tree if
I’m not outside. Because trees just feel strong and grounding. And then I like
just close my eyes and I see the picture of the kids in the sunflowers. And so
even if everything else feels awful, that takes me back to a feeling where I
felt good.
Kim Guche: We all
felt good. So you can get into that feeling. And. A thing that I teach in my [00:25:00] program is anchoring. So anchoring a
feeling of calm in the body. So a visual is really good, but I always set the
anchor. I I have a memory where my daughter’s graduation, where we went out for
Jordan’s graduation and we were all.
Kim Guche: Like on
the dance floor at one in the morning. And and it was just fun. It was like
the, it was like the best feeling of me like this really felt like so much love
and happiness. That was just a couple months ago. But I always, if I feel like
I’m having a rough day, I go back to like my, I have my anchor like here.
Kim Guche: You, once
you anchor it in, then you just. Press and release and that, you just, for even
for a few seconds, you get the flooding in your body of that feeling of this
feels like love or this feels like happiness or whatever you’re adding to it.
So that it, that’s it for me, but for everybody it could be [00:26:00] different.
Kim Guche: It, it
could be some people really like to move, like jump dance. Running in place,
jumping jacks, being active to shake off. But for, I have clients who are very
music oriented. So they’ll they’ll sing and they’ll just reset, with something
that, like a song that they like that gets them into a happy feeling.
Kim Guche: So it’s
definitely through the body how, whatever works for each person. Some people
tap, that’s another one you could just tap like your face. And just that
doesn’t, you don’t even have to do it for long. But it is a, it’s a reset. So
it just doing something, anything that’s gonna be a pattern interrupt, because
the last thing you wanna do is be in your head, letting your imagination take
takeover and then spiraling.
Kim Guche: ’cause
once you get a thought. Of how bad something is then, your imagination just
takes it and runs and you start snowballing. And that is just a story that’s
not real, that’s not the, that’s not reality. [00:27:00]
But your your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and
imagination.
Kim Guche: So it
feels real in your body. So it’s like that snap yourself out of snap yourself
out of that. It’s a negative hypnotic state. You’re being, you’re negatively
hypnotizing yourself.
Kim Guche: Cold water
is another one that works for a lot of people. Splash cold water on yourself,
or ice, like you put your hands in ice or ice water, something shock, shocking,
but not gonna hurt you.
Kim Guche: It’s just
gonna, it’s a snap, like to reset, take you out of it.
Victoria Bennion: Ah,
no thought to try that. Yeah, really useful tips. Thank you.
Kim Guche: , So my
little reset, the Chaos of Calm Reset audio that I included.
Victoria Bennion:
Yes. Thank you. We can put links in the show notes.
Kim Guche: That’s
just a I try to keep it like, I think it’s seven minutes, but it’s really
quick. There’s a lot of techniques that are inside of that will [00:28:00] help anybody really to reset. I did it is
for moms but it it just takes you out of. Moment and helps you get to a calmer
state and a safer ground.
Kim Guche: So that’s
just one of the tools inside my program.
Victoria Bennion: Is
that typically how you work with people
Kim Guche: I have a
lot of kids as clients, but I always say to the moms I happily work with your
child, but I won’t work with the child without a parent doing some of the work
too because the power of. The power of prayer or the power of group meditation,
like when it’s magnified. So if you, if your child wants to feel, I don’t know,
feel, smarter in math, take that I, kids wanna feel better and do better in
school so they have less anxiety around a topic. If the mom is visualizing that
same result, so both of you together are having the same visualization.
Kim Guche: You’re
good, you’re successful in math. [00:29:00] If
you’re doing it together, it amplifies the power of it. So I work with the
child and the mom together. And so what I do for the kids is is a little bit
different than how I do for the moms, but, for the moms, I’m helping them
change their old stories, because kids are gonna bring up for you.
Kim Guche: They’re
gonna, they’re gonna hit every Achilles heel that you have, your every sore
spot that you’ve ever lived in your life. Kids are gonna bring that up. It’s
all in your nervous system. So if they look at you wrong, you could take that
as, something that happened way back, they don’t mean it that way.
Kim Guche: They’re,
they’re rolling their eyes, but we, we take it personally like they’re,
they’re. Like disdain or something, like how we were treated. And you wanna,
it, you wanna clear out some of the, those old wounds that we have so that
we’re not triggered when our kids have these behaviors so that when they do X,
Y, and Z [00:30:00] it doesn’t feel like a
personal attack and bring us back to.
Kim Guche: Our own
childhood or our own old stories I’m not good enough. Nobody loves me. No one
sees me. No one listens to me. We all, the things we all have. So I help moms
with that to clear out the, and rewire their old patterns. And then for the
kids, I help them work on their goals.
Kim Guche: What is it
that you wanna feel like and helping them, to get to that the result that they
want. And, just doing quick mindset techniques that are gonna get them there.
Victoria Bennion:
That sounds really helpful.
Natalie Tealdi: Yeah,
definitely.
Kim Guche: do it so
easily because they’re always in their imagination anyway. It’s easy for them
to daydream or imagin, but you want them imagining things that are empowering
and things that are gonna help them feel good, not. Things that are chipping
away at their self-esteem or making them feel more anxious.
Victoria Bennion:
Absolutely.
Victoria Bennion: So
where’s the best place for listeners to connect [00:31:00]
with you?
Kim Guche: My website
is entrancing inspirations.com in my school group, it’s. It’s free. So I have a
lot of these tips in there. It’s for moms, like for, it’s the chaos to calm,
reset, mom. So there are all these tips in the modules.
Kim Guche: So I, I
talk about like nervous system science and the, how understanding the basics of
it so you know how and why the tools work. So you can get the tools in there.
So I’ll give you my school group link.
Natalie Tealdi: Oh,
brilliant.
Victoria Bennion:
Thank you so much for coming on and talking to us today and sharing all these
great tips that we can now go away and put into practice.
Kim Guche: Thank you
so much for having me.